People with a dismissive avoidant attachment style value their independence above all else. They tend to keep others at arm’s length, suppress their emotions, and avoid intimacy, exhibiting emotional distance. If you’re interested in someone with this attachment style, you might be wondering how to get them to chase you.
The truth is, trying to “chase” a dismissive avoidant is usually the worst thing you can do. It triggers their deepest fears of being controlled or engulfed, and it will likely push them further away. Think of it like trying to catch a wild animal – the more you pursue it, the faster it will run.
So, what does work? Instead of focusing on how to get a dismissive avoidant to chase you directly, you need to shift your approach. Focus on creating a secure and attractive environment where they feel safe enough to come closer on their own terms. This article will explore strategies to cultivate that environment, making you irresistible without triggering their fear of intimacy.