Being dumped hurts. Badly. And one of the first things you probably want to do is contact your ex. You want to understand what happened. You want to fix it. You want them back. The urge to reach out is almost overwhelming. Maybe you’re even thinking, “What if the dumper never contacts you?”
But here’s the hard truth: contacting the person who dumped you is almost always a bad idea. In fact, it’s often the worst thing you can do for yourself. Chasing after someone who’s already rejected you doesn’t show love; it shows a lack of self-respect. It prolongs the pain and delays the healing process.
This article will explain why you shouldn’t contact the “dumper” after a breakup, and why maintaining a state of “no contact” is so important. We’ll also explore some bad advice floating around out there that says otherwise, and offer some better strategies for healing and moving forward.